‘Can’t Get It Up’ By Charly Boy | Read His Article For Married Couples

Music veteran Charles ‘Charly Boy’ Oputa has
some words for married couples.
He posted an article on his Facebook page where
he sheds light on his own personal experience
while also advising married couples in a sex rut.
Read his post below:
The other day, I was invited by The Rotary Club,
Asokoro branch, to come and have a small talk
with them. The theme of the talk was, Longevity
in Marriage and the challenges of bonding. Why
me? I guess what qualified me is my seemingly
fairytale marriage to Lady Diane for the past
Hummmm e no easy sha. On the D day, it was as
informal as I had requested, as we all shared
some of our challenges in our present
relationships. I guess most of us including me,
walked out of the Hall room that day with some
take-away on tips of how to keep our relationships
and marriages refreshing. It was a very warm
interactive session, as phones numbers and Hi
fives were exchanged at the end.
A few days after our incisive meet, someone who
described himself as my number 1 fan called. He
said he read my piece on marriage, The
Impossible Fusion. From his tone, he was under
pressure in his marriage. He has only been
married for 4yrs and already his marriage has
suddenly become sexless, no action in the room.
He wasn’t finding it funny. He was no longer as
attracted to his wife as he used to be, and boy,
was he feeling real bad about this! Only 4yrs? I re-
echoe., hummm!
Weytin we go come talk again, we wey don
collect 37yrs, we might as well forget sex in our
Many of us are struggling through this same
problem right now and most of us feel very bad
about it; but no one can imagine the shit some of
us go through. And who said that there isn’t a
connection from your brain to your Kini. So if your
head is suddenly filled up with challenges, stress,
responsibilities, wahala, different winches
pursuing you, how your kini go work correct for
your spouse? But check it, this is not only a man’s
wahala, women go through the same shit.
Women can be known to put sex on the back
burner, but usually because they have all burners
going at once, typically thinking about 20 things
simultaneously and sex gets shuffled around in
the mix. Kids get sick, husband is growing a stove
as potbelly, his drinking is getting out of hand, or
his physical abuse, work priorities come up again,
an argument with your spouse and before you
know it, sex just jumps several items down on
that list of priorities-
And, just in case you’re puzzled by what
decreases the sex life between couples, never
worry too much, desire fades. My own take sha.
Keep in mind that a decent sex life takes work,
there is no quick fix. Just like having good health
and a good body takes effort in the way of proper
diet and exercise.
We have to keep trying to focus on making our
relationship better in general; communication, I
have always said, is key. We must continually act
as partners in this business, share interests and
activities together, go through hardships
together. Kai what are friends for? From time to
time, try some weird shit, like masturbating., read
or watch something naughty. The one that gets
my Iyawo is when I send her dirty text messages,
or send poems to her email, or suddenly bring her
flowers when there is no special occasion. In fact I
can’t lie you, I dey try, she herself know. When
you guys sleep, make doubly sure say one way or
the other, your bodies must keep touching till
morning. Ol boy, forget oooo NA WORK! However,
it is fun work if you are emotionally intelligent. I
remember days we also used to go to short time
hotels to catch a quickie, she loves that. We try
not to think too much about sex these days
though, it happens when it happens, it’s only
As long as we keep making an attempt and our
partners can also feel that, believe me, no wahala.
At all at all, na him bad pass. For women who
can’t find the inspiration to have sex with their
husbands again, biko fantasize about the hottest
man you want, that may wet and jump-start your
dry garden.
Every now and again, arrange an elaborate travel
plan or something that will just knock your
spouse off their tracks for a long time. Make we all
dey learn how to try, because my guy, nowhere
wey e easy. Marriage no be moi moi, I don see
tire, but the devil I know pass some winches I dey
see these days.
How you see de matter?
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